CREATE A STORY
Girls want a good story of how you guys met.
Think about it, women are conditioned by romance movies, and even by Disney movies as a kid, and the prince and princess never meet on tinder or at a club.
Women fantasize about a movie moment where they meet their prince charming in a romantic way, like a bookstore or salsa class or any random unexpected way during the day where the man needs balls to approach her.
Like for me, I get approached way more at night, but it rarely happens during the day, and I wish a charming guy would just come to say hi. And the same is true for a date, which creates lots of moments for her throughout the date, for example, if you take her to the movies and make her miss a good scene because you are trying to kiss her, it’s not going to be as special or memorable as going for the kiss on the beach under the stars or while dancing to a romantic song in the park.
BRING HER FAIRY TALE TO LIFE
Pay close attention to what she says to ultimately figure out her goals and dreams in life. Then create an alignment with her future and your future.
For example: after a couple of dates and she tells you she wants kids, you can ask her “do you think I’d be a good dad?” Therefore, you are getting her to start thinking about you as a fatherly-like figure. But make sure always to be real and authentic.
Another example could be if she wants to be an entrepreneur, you could talk about, how fun would it be to work on your businesses together on the beach. But make sure to be real and authentic, just don’t make stuff up. You don’t want to waste both your time if you are not compatible.
CREATE AN ADVENTURE
The point here is to create great memories together because the more great memories you create, the more invested and connected she will feel.
So, instead of just going to dinner and the movies, like every other guy, plan something more memorable and original like fun activities together, for example, Rollerblading, ice skating, dancing, or hiking, remember that motion creates emotion.
No girl wants to be bored on a date.
People are used to having conversations about the same topics over and over again about work, the weather, family and where they are from.
It is fine to talk about these things but if that is the bulk of your conversation, she’ll just go into her autopilot response and won’t FEEL anything, and it’s emotions that create powerful memories.
For example: do you remember where you were when 9/11 happened, or when Donald Trump got elected? Probably, because you were either really excited Donald Trump was elected or really pissed. Either way, you were emotionally charged.
But do you remember what you had for dinner last Tuesday? Probably not because it wasn’t emotional, unless it was your birthday or you did something unique. That’s because memories form through emotion. If she doesn’t feel anything, then she won’t even remember you, let alone fall in love with you. The worst thing you could do is be boring.
In fact, it’s better to create any emotion than no emotion. A man is usually too scared to offend or upset the woman, so he plays it safe.
Ask memorable questions like:
- “What would you tell your younger self?”
- “What are your main goals in life?”
- “What’s one thing no one knows about you?”
The first date I had with a guy was so memorable, and I ended up dating him for 2 years after that.
So keep her stimulated, most importantly, keep her mind stimulated with emotion & excitement. It’s exciting and romantic memories that create the feeling of love.
SHOW AFFECTION THE WAY SHE WANTS IT
You see, there are 5 major ways to show affection, also known as the 5 love languages.
- Touch – massage, head scratch
- Quality Time – attention is all on her
- Words of Affirmation – telling her what you like, care about,
- Acts of Service – doing something for her
- Gift Giving – thoughtful presents (not necessarily expensive) that surprise and give value
You see, not every woman wants affection the same way. All of these forms of appreciation are important, but some are stronger than others for different people.
For example, they are all important to me, but one of my strongest love languages is physical touch.
The key is to find out which is most important to her because you might think you are giving her all this value by communicating to her in your own love language when really you might be smothering her.
One way to find out her love languages is to pay attention to how she reacts by reading her body language. If you touch her and she recoils or if you compliment her and she shuts it down then those might not be her love languages.
You can even ask her, “would you rather have a back massage or receive gift?”. Or can even ask the girl if she knows what her love languages are, and if not you can explain it to her.
Once you know her strongest forms of receiving affection, then simply start showing affection the way she wants. But make sure not to overdo it too soon.
Women should earn your affection.
Remember, if you can create a story for her, get her to start imagining a future with you, make fun memories, spark romantic feelings, and show affection the way she wants, feelings of love will be right around the corner.
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